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		<title>ICABA’s High-Energy Business Forum  Delivers Expert Guidance and Valuable Networking</title>
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		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Apr 2012 18:31:50 +0000</pubDate>
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Miami, FL – (April 25, 2012) ICABA Media Holdings, LLC. Scores of professionals, business experts and a legion of the area’s burgeoning entrepreneurs recently attended the ICABA Business Forum.  Nova Southeastern University’s Wayne Huizenga School of Business and Entrepreneurship provided the perfect environment for the half-day forum. Workshop topics ranged from “Raising, Managing and [...]]]></description>
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<p><span style="color: #993300"><strong>Miami, FL – (April 25, 2012) ICABA Media Holdings, LLC</strong>.</span> Scores of professionals, business experts and a legion of the area’s burgeoning entrepreneurs recently attended the ICABA Business Forum.  Nova Southeastern University’s Wayne Huizenga School of Business and Entrepreneurship provided the perfect environment for the half-day forum. Workshop topics ranged from “Raising, Managing and Protecting Capital” to “Using Technology to Gain a Competitive Edge” and concluded with a networking reception.</p>
<p>The April 18 event was the first in a continuing series of business forums planned by ICABA. Attendee Thomas Ramsey stated: “The ICABA Business Forum changed my life…I was inspired by the panelists on the <em>Highly Successful Entrepreneurs: Lessons Learned</em> workshop and gained valuable insights at other workshops and by seeing the video applications utilized by the Huizenga Sales Institute.”</p>
<p>Customized workshops helped entrepreneurs build on their successes with expert guidance. Workshop presenters included top experts and business leaders in the fields of expertise ranging from finance, private equity, technology, marketing, social media, and human resources professionals.</p>
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<p>One of the participants, the owner of a ‘boutique’ business that has operated since 1983, said that he was surprised at how much useful information he gained after so many years of running his enterprise.</p>
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<h4><span style="color: #993300"><strong>The workshop topics and speakers included:</strong></span></h4>
<h4><span style="color: #993300"><strong>RAISING-MANAGING-PROTECTING CAPITAL</strong></span></h4>
<p><strong><em>Iwan Mohamed, Vice President, BB&amp;T Bank</em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em>John Oxendine, CEO, Blackstar Management</em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Tunde Ogunlana, Co-Managing Partner, Diamond Wealth Management (an office of MetLife)</em></strong></p>
<h4><span style="color: #993300"><strong>LESSONS LEARNED FROM HIGHLY SUCCESSFUL ENTREPRENEURS</strong></span></h4>
<p><strong><em>Robert Beatty, CEO, Beatty Media</em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Steven Bettinger, CEO, Coastal Cars, Logan Equity</em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Dinah Stephenson, CAO, D. Stephenson Construction</em></strong></p>
<h4><span style="color: #993300"><strong>MARKETING-SOCIAL MEDIA-SALES</strong></span></h4>
<p><strong><em>Byron Dennis, Chief Sales Guy, Best Foot Forward</em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Marvin Dejean, CEO, Gilead Sanders </em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Jay Berkowitz, Social Media Expert, Author and Speaker</em></strong></p>
<h4><span style="color: #993300"><strong>TALENT: RECRUITMENT-RETENTION-PRODUCTIVITY-LEGAL &amp; REGULATION</strong></span></h4>
<p><em>Mason Jackson, CEO, Workforce One Employment Solutions</em></p>
<p><em>Mary Adams, JD, Principal Consultant, The Employee Relations Group</em></p>
<p><em>Frank Scruggs, Partner, Berger-Singerman (former Secretary, Florida Dept. of Labor); </em></p>
<h3><span style="color: #993300"><strong>BUSINESS NETWORKING &amp; PERSONAL BRANDING</strong></span></h3>
<p><strong><em>Dan Lindblade, CEO, Greater Ft. Lauderdale Chamber of Commerce</em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Rueben Stokes, Director, Diversity and Inclusion, Ryder Systems</em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Burnadette Norris Weeks, Attorney &amp; Entrepreneur</em></strong></p>
<h4><span style="color: #993300"><strong>USING TECHNOLOGY TO GAIN A COMPETITIVE EDGE</strong></span></h4>
<p><strong><em>Kevin Michael, CEO, INVIZIO</em></strong></p>
<p><strong><em>Daniel Rodriguez, CTO, United Data technology</em></strong></p>
<p><strong>Attorney Frank Scruggs</strong>, (Shareholder, Berger Singerman) a veteran of many public presentations, and former Secretary of the Florida Department of Labor said that this was one of the best workshops in which he had participated.</p>
<p>The ICABA Business Forum’s attracted participants from Palm Beach, Broward and Miami-Dade counties. Additionally, several workshop participants came from as far as Orlando.</p>
<p>Jerome Hutchinson, Jr. CEO, ICABA Media Holdings, LLC, opened the Forum with remarks about the importance of making professional “connections.” He wanted everyone to have an excellent experience.</p>
<p><strong>Director of the Huizenga Sales Institute, Charlie Pettyjohn, D.B.A.  spoke on behalf of Dr. J. Preston Jones</strong>, the business school’s Interim Dean, welcomed participants and gave an overview of the academic program at the Huizenga Sales Institute.</p>
<p>At the conclusion of the workshops, the participants were given their choice of one of two ICABA profile directories 1.) South Florida&#8217;s Most Accomplished Blacks in Healthcare and Law, or 2.) South Florida&#8217;s Most Accomplished Black Executives, Professionals and Academicians.</p>
<p>ICABA is a “green” company so each of the participants received a copy of the day’s presentations on a jump drive (provided by Nova Southeastern University) instead of paper.</p>
<p>The second Business Forum is scheduled June 20, 2012 and will be presented in conjunction with the University of Miami School Of Business.</p>
<h4><span style="color: #993300"><strong>About ICABA Media Holdings, LLC </strong></span></h4>
<p>ICABA Media Holdings, LLC is a South Florida based affinity marketing and media company. ICABA profiles accomplished black professionals and entrepreneurs in its publications and connects them through its social network- icabaworld.com, and at its signature events.  It’s most recent Profile Directory: “<em>ICABA Honors South Florida&#8217;s Most Accomplished Black Executives, Professionals and Academicians”</em> was published in October, 2011 and was presented at its signature Recognition Reception.  ICABA® is the registered trademark of ICABA Media Holdings, LLC. For more information regarding ICABA, please visit: <a href="http://www.icabaworld.com/">www.icabaworld.com</a>.</p>
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		<title>Increasing Loyalty by Enhancing Employee Benefit Offerings, Not Costs</title>
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		<pubDate>Fri, 06 Apr 2012 02:06:33 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[Today’s small business owner faces a number of challenges including a slow economic recovery and volatile investment markets. In addition to those, according to MetLife’s 9th Annual Study of Employee Benefit Trends, many may also be facing employee retention issues as employee loyalty has significantly declined in the last few years. ]]></description>
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<p><strong><span style="color: #993300">Delivered courtesy of Tunde Ogunlana, CFS, Diamond Wealth Management, an office of MetLife.</span><a href="http://icabaworld.com/files/2012/01/Tunde-Ogunlana.JPG"><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-3554" src="http://icabaworld.com/files/2012/01/Tunde-Ogunlana.JPG" alt="Tunde Ogunlana" width="150" height="191" /></a></strong></p>
<p>Today’s small business owner faces a number of challenges including a slow economic recovery and volatile investment markets. In addition to those, according to MetLife’s 9<sup>th</sup> Annual Study of Employee Benefit Trends, many may also be facing employee retention issues as employee loyalty has significantly declined in the last few years. Only 44% of employees reported a strong sense of loyalty to their current employer – a sharp contrast from 2008 where 62% of those surveyed felt a great sense of loyalty.</p>
<p>Though small businesses may be facing some hurdles, today’s environment may present opportunities for employers to help retain and recruit employees by improving benefit offerings while maintaining the line on costs.</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300"><strong><em>Voluntary Benefits </em></strong></span></p>
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<p>Though benefits such as medical, prescription drugs, dental, life, disability, and vision coverage, are considered by many employees important to have, about one-third of small business do not offer one or all of these. Among employees, however, interest is still very strong. The study shows that approximately half of employees find it important to have benefits like life, dental, and disability insurance available to them through the workplace even if they have to pay all of the cost themselves.</p>
<p>Therefore, voluntary benefits are another option for small business employers seeking a cost-effective way to increase their benefits offerings while improving employee retention. When faced with a choice of either paying for some benefits or losing them entirely, many employees indicated that they would choose to pay for them.</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300"><strong><em>Retirement Solutions</em></strong></span></p>
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<p>For individuals today, saving for retirement has become a daunting task. It is safe to say that a majority of individuals today feel that they have not saved enough for retirement, and the anemic economic recovery has not assuaged those fears and concerns.</p>
<p>One way small businesses may be able to help employees with their retirement savings goals is to offer educational programs. 75% of small business employees (those who work for employers with fewer than 500 workers) who report taking time off to deal with, or spend more time at work thinking about personal financial issues than they think they should, said they would be interested in receiving advice and guidance through their employer. Employers are somewhat reluctant to do so, understandable giving these challenging times. But there are clearly some productivity and loyalty implications for an employer’s decision not to address the financial worries of employees. Overall, many financial advice and guidance programs and tools can be implemented with minimal cost and effort.</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300"><strong><em>Opportunities</em></strong></span></p>
<p><em> </em></p>
<p>To the small business owner, the question of whether or not to offer employee benefits is more a question of how to spend more effectively versus spending more. Many employee benefit solutions can be implemented by a small business owner at a minimal cost, and the  rewards can be quite substantial as these benefits foster a sense of loyalty among employees. Company loyalty, in turn, may lead to a more positive work environment, a place where employees feel they have a network of support and greater job satisfaction.</p>
<p>Therefore, to help prevent small businesses suffer employee productivity losses from losing talented staff or from having dissatisfied employees, they should be encouraged to work with their brokers to ensure that their benefits program is meeting the needs of employees and that the benefit offerings remain relevant and competitive. A well-designed, cost-effective benefits program can help small business employers attract, retain, reward and motivate those who make the business run effectively and efficiently.</p>
<p>Metropolitan Life Insurance Company, 200 Park Avenue, New York, NY 10166.</p>
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		<pubDate>Wed, 04 Jan 2012 21:58:16 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description><![CDATA[The purpose of technology is to make our lives better and more convenient. The same goes for technology in business. So as the year gets underway and you undoubtedly look towards options to enhance the performance of your organization, I would like to offer a few thoughts on what you should consider before embarking on [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><em>The purpose of technology is to make our lives better and more convenient. The same goes for technology in business. So as the year gets underway and you undoubtedly look towards options to enhance the performance of your organization, I would like to offer a few thoughts on what you should consider before embarking on technology changes.<br />
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<p><strong>Tip#1: Prepare Your Organization For Change</strong></p>
<p>There is no amount of technological advancement that can overcome our very human and natural resistance to change. In my experience, technology projects seldom fail because the solutions fail to work as advertised, but rather because of a failure in leadership to act. Before undertaking any technology, understand that the project is fundamentally about change to the way people in your organization perform their work. Projects affect business processes, systems and people. You must be willing to champion these projects by communicating with and involving the people who are affected by the change. Ignoring this reality results in systems that never get used, or used ineffectively by people who did not ‘buy-in’ to the vision.</p>
<p><strong>Tip #2: Calculate the ROI</strong></p>
<p>It may sound like a fairly standard business practice to consider cost/benefit and return on investment when making a decision, but you&#8217;d be surprised by how often this analysis is overlooked. Technology has to create leverage by making life for you or your employees easier, although these benefits are often hard to measure. It is absolutely essential for you to determine what a technology solution means to your team in terms of money, time or hassle saved. Does the solution increase productivity so you can do more with less? Does the solution create time for your team to focus on more valuable initiatives? Does it help you close more business? Does it mitigate risks that could have significant tangible or intangible losses? If you can&#8217;t answer yes to these questions and attach numbers to these answers, avoid justifying a purchase solely on the promise of its bells and whistles.</p>
<p><strong>Tip #3: Seek Help</strong></p>
<p>Whether you&#8217;re the CIO of a large enterprise or the owner of small home-based business, its important to take an inventory of the skills, knowledge and bandwidth available within your organization that will be necessary to effectively execute on a technology project. If it turns out that you will be deficient in any of those areas, you&#8217;ll need to revise your plans or seek external help. It&#8217;s always appealing to go it alone when you consider the additional cost, but I would argue that getting it done right is better than simply getting it done. Many a project has gone up in flames due to an unwillingness to incorporate skilled consultants or by forcing a project onto an overburdened IT staff.</p>
<p><strong>About the Author</strong><br />
<a href="http://www.icabaworld.com/members/kevinvmichael">Kevin V. Michael</a> serves as co-founder and Managing Partner of <a href="http://www.invizio.com/" target="_blank">Invizio</a>, a South Florida IT services and consulting firm. Overseeing business development, strategic partnerships and client relations for the company this Antiguan-born entrepreneur and corporate alumnus of Motorola and Citigroup is one of South Florida&#8217;s brightest minds in the IT industry. Mr. Michael holds a Bachelor of Science in Information Technology &amp; Software Engineering from the University of Miami College of Engineering with majors in Computer Science and Computer Information Systems and is a Microsoft Certified IT Professional. In 2011, Mr. Michael was named one of South Florida’s 40 Under 40 Professionals of Today and Tomorrow by Legacy Magazine in partnership with the Miami Herald.</p>
<p><strong>Connect with Kevin V. Michael &amp; Invizio</strong></p>
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The year is quickly coming to an end, and 2011 is officially considered old news. While you gear up for the holidays by purchasing presents for friends and family members, stocking your refrigerator with lots to eat and making plans to run the town on New Year&#8217;s Eve, don&#8217;t forget that the technology in your [...]]]></description>
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<p>The year is quickly coming to an end, and 2011 is officially considered old news. While you gear up for the holidays by purchasing presents for friends and family members, stocking your refrigerator with lots to eat and making plans to run the town on New Year&#8217;s Eve, don&#8217;t forget that the technology in your business could benefit from a little TLC. Here are my 5 technology upgrade suggestions that will bring your business up to speed for 2012.</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300"><strong>1) Tablets</strong></span></p>
<p>This year we saw the rise (Apple iPad and Android) and in some cases the attempted rise (Blackberry Playbook, HP TouchPad) of tablet devices into the technology stratosphere. Apple’s iPad commands the market, Android tablets have really begun to shine, and expect a splash from Microsoft Windows 8 tablets next year. Tablets will most likely grow into the most ubiquitous mobile device in coming years and you should start finding ways to incorporate them into your business before you get left behind.</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300"><strong>2) Smartphones</strong></span></p>
<p>If making a phone call is the only thing your mobile phone does reliably, it’s time to consider a step up. If used appropriately, smartphones will give you a boost as you squeeze e-mails, note taking, calendaring and even that de-stressing game of Angry Birds in while on the go. Picking a smartphone is a lot like picking a significant other, ideally you should be attracted to them (i.e. the look and feel), you should love them for who they are (i.e the platform) and they should get along (i.e. integrate) with other things in your life. Luckily you’ll have tons of options to choose from. Between Apple’s iPhone, Blackberry and the plethora of Windows Phone 7 and Android phones you should have no problem finding a phone that you’ll enjoy spending time with.</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300"><strong>3) Cloud Platform</strong></span></p>
<p>If you find yourself stuck running an in-house email server or you feel jealous when you see friends accessing their data while on the go, you need to get with the times. Online collaboration platforms like Microsoft Office 365 and Google Apps make it easier than ever for you to get reliable (and innovative) hosted email and collaborative applications so your team can be more agile. While, the cloud is still not the best place for everything, e-mail and shared files are no-brainers.</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300"><strong>4) Videoconferencing &amp; Online Meetings</strong></span></p>
<p>Face time is a very important thing in business, but with a hobbling economy, time and money are extremely precious. Instead of taking that trip across town or to the airport, let your hair down and fire up a video chat application like Skype or Google Chat. Applications like GoToMeeting, Cisco WebEx and Microsoft Lync also allow you to combine videoconferencing and screen sharing to provide a total meeting experience. It might feel a little goofy at first, but after a couple times you&#8217;ll wonder how you lived without it. Now just think of all the gas, tolls, parking and airline tickets you’ll skip the bill on.</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300"><strong>5) Desktop &amp; Laptop Upgrades</strong></span></p>
<p>Microsoft Windows XP officially turned 10 years this past August. For you, that means you are either 1) using a technology that is over a decade old or 2) your computer is probably getting up there too. It&#8217;s time to start thinking about some replacements. A slow computer really kills your productivity and I would even venture to say your morale. If you&#8217;re in the Windows side of the world, Windows 7 is the best thing Microsoft has done in a long time, and Windows 8 expected out next year kicks butt and I mean it. Mac users on the other hand, usually need no prompting when it comes to upgrades. You guys get the point.</p>
<p><span style="color: #993300"><strong>About the Author</strong></span></p>
<p>Kevin V. Michael serves as co-founder and Managing Partner of <a href="http://www.invizio.com/">Invizio</a>, a South Florida IT services and consulting firm. Overseeing business development, strategic partnerships and client relations for the company this Antiguan-born entrepreneur and corporate alumnus of Motorola and Citigroup is one of South Florida&#8217;s brightest minds in the IT industry. Mr. Michael holds a Bachelor of Science in Information Technology &amp; Software Engineering from the University of Miami College of Engineering with majors in Computer Science and Computer Information Systems and is a Microsoft Certified IT Professional. In 2011, Mr. Michael was named one of South Florida’s 40 Under 40 Professionals of Today and Tomorrow by Legacy Magazine in partnership with the Miami Herald.</p>
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		<title>Expert Financial Advice from MetLife&#8217;s Tunde Ogunlana: Secure The Future Of Your Business</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[What would happen to your business and your family should you become disabled or die unexpectedly?  Do you have key employees for family members who could step in and run the company in your absence? It is essential to the future of your business and your family to have a succession strategy in place.]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://icabaworld.com/files/2009/11/babatunde_ogunlana_photo.jpg"><img class="alignleft size-full wp-image-193" src="http://icabaworld.com/files/2009/11/babatunde_ogunlana_photo.jpg" alt="babatunde_ogunlana_photo" width="247" height="246" /></a>When it comes to your business, hoping for the best won’t ensure its future.  Take Jack Stanton for example.  Jack spent thirty years building a manufacturing giant, Stanton Solutions Corporation.  However, due to the rigors of maintaining his company, he had little time for any personal financial and estate planning.  Then, Jack died unexpectedly in a boating accident.  All of a sudden, Stanton Solutions, a multi-million dollar manufacturing empire was facing an uncertain future caused by the loss of its owner and upper-most key executive.</p>
<p>What would happen to your business and your family should you become disabled or die unexpectedly?  Do you have key employees for family members who could step in and run the company in your absence?</p>
<p><strong>Business Continuation Basics</strong></p>
<p>It is essential to the future of your business and your family to have a succession strategy in place.  In order for your business to maintain continuity, you need to implement a succession strategy that coincides with your goals and objectives.  Your strategy should be flexible enough to handle changes within the company and its related industry(ies).  However, one of the keys to a succession strategy is determining who or whom your successor(s) will be.</p>
<p>Deciding on, and preparing a successor may require years to familiarize him or her with the finer points of the business.  Thus, it is important to select a replacement as soon as possible in order to maximize the possibility of a successful transition.  In smaller businesses, it is not uncommon for one or more family members to be at the top of the list of potential successors.</p>
<p>If you wish to pass your business on to future generations, you will need to make an honest assessment of the respective needs of your family and business, the qualifications of any interested family members, and whether the family and business would be best served by a continued relationship.  Communication with family members is extremely important in order to better ascertain overall interest or concern.</p>
<p>You can prepare yourself by honestly evaluating and reflecting on the necessary components of a well-thought-out succession strategy.  Here are some points that may require further elaboration:</p>
<p style="padding-left: 30px">• A thorough job description of each position, including details regarding areas of responsibility and delegation of duties;<br />
• A management/organizational plan;Assuring the availability of cash to meet the demands of federal and/or state estate taxes;<br />
• A list of potential successors to your ownership, taking every candidate’s job experience and academic background into consideration; and<br />
• A mechanism to ensure extensive on-the-job training for the successor(s)</p>
<p><strong>Other Considerations</strong></p>
<p>A succession strategy may also include a buy-sell agreement funded by life insurance.  More than likely, your successor may not have the cash, or the ability, to borrow at the time of successorship.  Under such an agreement, the death benefit proceeds of the life insurance can be used to provide the cash necessary for a successor to purchase an owner’s share of stock in the event of his or her untimely death.</p>
<p>In addition, it may be prudent to explore how your unexpected disability could affect not only your plans for successorship, but also your financial well-being.  Under a disability buyout arrangement, a disability buyout policy provides a successor with cash to purchase shares in the event of the owner’s untimely disability.</p>
<p>You should consult with your insurance, legal and tax professionals to devise a plan of action that provides security for your business and your family. With proper planning, your objectives for business succession and securing your family’s future can be met.</p>
<p>This article is for general information only and is not intended to provide specific advice or recommendations for any individual.  You should consult with your advisor, attorney or accountant with regard to your individual situation.</p>
<h5>Pursuant to IRS Circular 230, MetLife is providing you with the following notification:</h5>
<h5>The information contained in this document is not intended to (and cannot) be used by anyone to avoid IRS penalties. This document supports the promotion and marketing of insurance products.  You should seek advice based on your particular circumstances from an independent tax advisor.</h5>
<p><strong>Babatunde Ogunlana<br />
</strong>Diamond Wealth Management, an Office of Metlife<br />
<a href="mailto:bogunlana@metlife.com">bogunlana@metlife.com</a></p>
<p>As a Financial Adviser Tunde focuses on four key areas: wealth accumulation, wealth distribution, wealth preservation, and wealth transfer.</p>
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Ann Fudge is Former Chairman and CEO of Young &#38; Rubicam Brands, a global network of pre-eminent companies across the full range of marketing communications. Young &#38; Rubicam Brands companies include Y&#38;R (advertising), Burson-Marsteller (public relations/public affairs), Wunderman (direct and database marketing), Landor Associates (brand consulting and creative design), Sudler &#38; Hennessey (strategic healthcare communications) [...]]]></description>
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<p>Ann Fudge is Former Chairman and CEO of Young &amp; Rubicam Brands, a global network of pre-eminent companies across the full range of marketing communications. Young &amp; Rubicam Brands companies include Y&amp;R (advertising), Burson-Marsteller (public relations/public affairs), Wunderman (direct and database marketing), Landor Associates (brand consulting and creative design), Sudler &amp; Hennessey (strategic healthcare communications) and Cohn &amp; Wolfe (public relations) among others.</p>
<p>Prior to Young &amp; Rubicam Brands, Ms. Fudge served as President, Beverages, Desserts and Post Division – a $5 billion unit of Kraft Foods.  She served on Kraft’s Management Committee and has managed many businesses including Maxwell House Coffee, Gevalia Kaffe, Kool Aid, Crystal Light, Post cereals, Jell-O desserts and Altoids.  Before joining General Foods, she spent nine years at General Mills, where she began as a Marketing Assistant and rose to the level of Marketing Director.</p>
<p>She serves on the Board of Directors of General Electric, Novartis, and Unilever.  She is a trustee of Morehouse College and the Brookings Institution.  Ms. Fudge also serves on the Boards of the Rockefeller Foundation, the Council on Foreign Relations, and is Chair of the U.S. Program Advisory Panel for the Gates Foundation.  She has served as Vice Chair of the Harvard Board of Overseers, on the Board of Catalyst, the NY Philharmonic and on the Board of Governors for the Boys and Girls Clubs of America.  She has also served on the Board of the Federal Reserve Bank of New York, Liz Claiborne, Allied Signal, Honeywell, and Marriott International.</p>
<p>Ms. Fudge has received the Matrix Award for Advertising from New York Women in Communication and was a recipient of the NY Executive Council’s Ten Awards for leadership and innovation in business.  She was named one of Time Magazine’s Global Business Influentials.  Among her other honors are Leadership Awards from the Minneapolis and New York City YWCA, an Alumni Achievement Award from Harvard Business School, a Lifetime Achievement Award from Ebony magazine, and a Legacy Award in Business from Black Enterprise magazine.  She has been profiled in <em>Black Enterprise</em>, <em>Business Week </em>and <em>The New York Times</em>, among others and named by Fortune magazine as one of the 50 most powerful women in American business.</p>
<p>Ms. Fudge received her BA from Simmons College and her MBA from Harvard University Graduate School of Business.  Ms. Fudge is married and has two sons and five grandchildren.</p>
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		<title>Can A Mother Be Her Daughter’s Best Friend? &#8211; By Dr. Bessie Fletcher</title>
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I have heard the statement “A mother can’t be her daughter’s best friend and be her mother at the same time.” I disagree. I feel that being my daughter’s best friend deepens and broadens the bond in our relationship. I can’t imagine my daughter going to anyone asking for advice or sharing her thoughts in [...]]]></description>
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<p>I have heard the statement “A mother can’t be her daughter’s best friend and be her mother at the same time.” I disagree. I feel that being my daughter’s best friend deepens and broadens the bond in our relationship. I can’t imagine my daughter going to anyone asking for advice or sharing her thoughts in fear of my reactions to her thoughts. No one should know you better than your mother.</p>
<p>As an only child, I was very close to my mother and her to me. I can remember the wonderful times when my mother and I would lie on the bed and talk for hours. She would always start the conversation with “How was your day?&#8221; That would get me started and I would just go on and on, because I could see the interest and love in her eyes, and that would motivate me to share even more.</p>
<p>I understand that as a human being there are certain things we choose to keep to ourselves and that is natural. However, over the past few years of facilitating Mother and Daughter Bonding workshops I have seen many mothers and daughters all struggling with the same issue, a lack of honest communication.</p>
<p>As mothers and daughters began to share their intra-conversations (on-going conversation in their heads) they started having honest, loving, trusting, and open communication that was needed to strengthen their bond and create the breakthrough for a better relationship.</p>
<p>How can you be your daughter’s best friend? Recapture that moment when you first looked into her eyes. Start by looking in to her eyes, giving her lots of hugs and, spending at least one hour of quality time a week together. These three things start an energy force that creates a trusting relationship between a mother and her daughter(s) and help you to develop an honest mother and daughter relationship.</p>
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		<title>Think Now or Suffer Later Part II &#8211; Making Smart Financial Choices &#8211; By Bernard Lee</title>
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		<description><![CDATA[&#8220;One of the results of Florida&#8217;s foreclosure crisis that will affect the future of African American wealth building is that fewer families will have a home to pass from generation to generation. Amid rising inflation, crooked subprime loan sharks that targeted Blacks and an escalated unemployment rate, financial experts say it is imperative that Black [...]]]></description>
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<p>&#8220;One of the results of Florida&#8217;s foreclosure crisis that will affect the future of African American wealth building is that fewer families will have a home to pass from generation to generation. Amid rising inflation, crooked subprime loan sharks that targeted Blacks and an escalated unemployment rate, financial experts say it is imperative that Black household s think seriously about saving to maximize their dollars and to hold on to what they have.</p>
<p>“Everyone has already learned to become a homeowner is the No. 1 way to build wealth and transfer it. Now things will change, <strong>Bernard Lee,</strong> managing director of Miami&#8217;s Laurus Wealth Management, told the Florida Courier. Invest in mutual funds. “If you are a person who can spend $100 and not know where it went, you have enough money to invest. The average tax return is about $1,900.Most people just spend it. But you work hard every day, you&#8217;re 40 years old and have no IRA, contribute your refund every year to an IRA account and in 25 years you will have $165,000 at 8 percent. Belton and Lee also suggest investing in mutual funds.</p>
<p>“Everything is a market cycle and 80 percent of retirement is left up to you, Lee said. “If you play the numbers, $10 a day, six days a week is $3,120 a year. If the money is placed in an average run-of-the mill mutual fund at just 8 percent growth, it will be $3,359 a year. At 8 percent, compound that and in 10 years you will be closer to $45,000. Making smart choices Belton says if something is expensive for you, it is probably doing well in the stock market.</p>
<p>“If food is expensive for you, then you want to own some food companies. Buy shares in gold mining companies or those that are drilling for oil. I&#8217;m taking lemons and making lemonade for my investors. “The upsides are pharmaceuticals, mining, technology and the materials that are needed to do these jobs. Today railroads are doing fine. They were dying, but with oil prices it has become too costly to use planes to transport goods. These are areas that are doing well in spite of the downturn, Belton related. &#8220;Invest in mutual funds that own companies in these kinds of businesses and then you get the opportunity to own a group of stocks instead of one. For the small investor, mutual funds make a lot more.&#8221;</p>
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		<title>Fight Fair! &#8211; Agree to disagree -By Lisa Tait</title>
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<p>It is inevitable that you will have disagreements in your relationship. Relationships are comprised of two different people, from different backgrounds, with different opinions and multi-faceted ways of looking at the world. In fact, it&#8217;s almost amazing that we can agree on any one issue in our relationships at all. But disagreeing with your loved one doesn&#8217;t mean you have to declare war and leave the battle wounded and broken. When you disagree you must enter the disagreement with the sole purpose of resolving an issue and not getting even, hurting someone&#8217;s feelings, or giving them a piece of your mind. It is true that you can win the battle and lose the war. In other words, you may win the fight but ultimately it could cause irreparable damage to the relationship. So here are the rules for fighting fair. Stick to the Facts. Place restrictive boundaries around the subject matter that&#8217;s up for debate. Don&#8217;t bring up old grudges, past hurts, or unrelated incidences to strengthen your argument. Keep it Confidential. Never argue around friends, family, innocent by-standers or co-workers. Fighting in front of your children is tantamount to child abuse. Remember others may continue to hold grudges long after you&#8217;ve forgiven your loved one. Tell the Truth. The truth is not always pleasant to hear but it will set you free. Don&#8217;t dance around the problem, be frank about how you really feel. Give the truth in love, keeping in mind that the end result is resolution, and not continued conflict.</p>
<p>Naming-Calling is a &#8220;No, No.&#8221; Never stoop to character assassination when fighting. It&#8217;s unfair, childish and many times unforgivable to call someone out of their name. Leave the house before you resort to slanderous name-calling. Profanity is Prohibited. As Christians we should never have cause to resort to profanity. It is very difficult to respect someone&#8217;s faith walk when they&#8217;ve just finished cursing you out. Try as hard as you can to keep it holy. Decide on your Battles. Every time you&#8217;ve been wronged or disagree with your loved one is not the appropriate time to argue. Pick your battles carefully and cautiously. Avoid Cyber-Arguing. Have enough respect and decency when resolving conflict to argue in person. Never argue via e-mails, cell phones, or text messages. The main reason for this is because the other person can and will re-read your comments over and over again until the resentment and anger boils over. End the Argument with Dignity. How an argument ends is crucial. Even if the person doesn&#8217;t apologize or come around to your way of thinking you need to simply agree to disagree. Avoid slamming doors, not talking for a week, or threatening your partner. Leave in love.</p>
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<p>I have conducted marital counseling for more couples in the last month than I care to mention. The weight of a depressed economy is seriously beginning to take its toll on marital relationships. It seems as if people expect the pastoral counselor to wave a magic wand and make things all better in seriously damaged and sometimes totaled relationships.</p>
<p>I&#8217;ve discovered through my continued studies that the real problem begins and ends with the absence of &#8220;Authentic&#8221; or unconditional love. When we possess this type of love we care about the happiness of our spouse without any thought for what we might get for ourselves. This type of love keeps you from becoming disappointed or angry when the other person makes foolish mistakes, when they don&#8217;t do what you want, or even when they inconvenience you personally. Authentic love is really the only thing that matters in life.</p>
<p>When we experience this kind of love from another we are completely fulfilled and the longing and searching ends. The problem is that most of us have never experienced this type of love. Instead we date and marry our spouse based on &#8220;Imitation Love.&#8221;  This love is a substitute for Authentic Love and it comes in the form of praise, power, pleasure and safety. When we dated we were drawn and attracted to the praise (the approval, compliments, acceptance) we received from the other person. Or perhaps it was the power that initially drew you. You were with someone that you could control, even if only in a small way. The pleasure you received in the relationship drew you even closer and it consisted of food, sex, hanging out, and other forms of entertainment. But for many the safety was a key factor. That other person protected you from feelings of loneliness, abandonment, emptiness, and disapproval. These four components when combined in varying degrees of intensity gave you the feeling of falling or being in love.</p>
<p>The issue arises when one or both persons in the relationship stops giving the praise, power, pleasure and safety. That&#8217;s when we really get to see just how absolutely shallow &#8220;Imitation Love&#8221; is. Listen, the only magic wand I can offer to married couples or anyone in a troubled relationship is &#8220;Authentic Love.&#8221; You must begin to love that person with no conditions. Decide that there is absolutely no way for your love for them to cease. You will find that you react differently to them because you have made a conscious choice to embrace Authentic Love. This is the kind of love God gives to us. And perhaps that&#8217;s the other problem in our relationships &#8211; we haven&#8217;t fully accepted the Authentic Love that God gives and therefore this concept is foreign and unfamiliar to us. Do yourself a favor, learn to love unconditionally and you will discover that all your relationships (spouse, children, co-workers, church members, neighbors, and relatives) will begin to dramatically improve.</p>
<p><strong>About Dr. Lisa Tait: CEO/Founder, Women of Destiny (Atlanta, GA) </strong></p>
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